Being completely YOU when you blog and telling it like it is
I recently read a couple blogs of female business women that I really enjoyed reading. I find myself analysing the fact that they laid out their personal situation for us all to read. I mean LAID IT ALL OUT THERE. I enjoyed reading them because I felt connected to them. There is some comfort in feeling connected.
The first I’d like to mention is from mommy connections founder
Did you go and read this? Reading this you see the roller coaster of emotion she felt and the pain she went through, correction – is going through. For women who have gone through this, imagine the powerful connection they feel and comfort in knowing they are not alone. You can see from all the thank you’s and sharing in the comments how appreciative people are. This blog post struck me, not because I’ve had any miscarriage, but because it is so deeply personal. I also feel a little more educated about how someone going through a miscarriage feels. I certainly won’t be saying “everything happens for a reason” to them.
Now, for the second blog post,
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I’m a complete and utter stranger, yet through twitter and blogs I feel like I know this woman. And she’s ok with that? Thus far, I haven’t been able to put myself out there like this. What about weirdos? Aren’t there weirdos who could stalk her? Isn’t there someone who will write some lame/ mean comment? Too risky. I don’t know if I can do it. What am I saying? Of course I know. I DON’T do it. I enjoy my privacy but I also enjoy sharing what I’ve learned and getting feedback from people out there. I struggle with this. I don’t have a profound conclusion either.
Here’s the quick bulleted list I came up with about being completely honest in your blog entries:
Pros:
-being “real”
-therapeutic release
-potential of connecting with awesome people
Cons:
-you’re exposed. risky. It’s one-sided sharing. People will meet you and know you way more than you could know them.
-judgements/ being misinterpreted
– Mean comments ( I get emails from people sometimes that really, I can’t believe they write to another human being they haven’t met and want service from, in such a rude manner. The anonymity of commenting online provides extra incentive to say stuff that wouldn’t happen to my face. Do I want to open myself up for this?)
-Weirdos. Like on facebook – you know those ‘creepers’. They read all your facebook statuses and posts but never comment or ‘like’ so you never know they are there. egh. shudder*. Weirdos., I re-iterate.
I really admire the courage of real bloggers. If you look at all my cons, it basically boils down to fear. Why does any of those matter? If you make one more worth while connection – wasn’t it worth it all?
